MY STORY & Book Info
I am Mohawk / Ojibway, Turtle Clan from Six Nations Ontario
with roots in Alderville First Nation.
I grew up in the city culturally disconnected,
a result of government assimilation policies.
I've spent my life reconnecting to my birthright.
Understanding colonialism and historical trauma
caused me to be compassionate and forgiving ( to a fault )
when it came to my partners abusive behaviour.
Turning pain into purpose, today I lean into my beautiful-disaster
and share the wisdom I gained
about the human condition
to help others get unstuck,
recognize their worth,
and live the life their spirit seeks.
SHAME TO SHINE - introduction excerpt...
I’ve always been a dreamer, an achiever, but one thing I wasn’t striving for was becoming a statistic of domestic violence. I was certain I would never put up with that kind of behaviour…and then I did, sorely underestimating the psychological trappings of this worldwide crisis. Mind theft using manipulation is a crime for which no punishment exists. A social loophole we can no longer ignore.
Book reviews by survivors of domestic violence....
The author supplied real advice with real situations, and it made the transitions to the next chapter relatable and understandable. I enjoyed the emotional ride throughout; it most definitely displays the struggle for DV on leaving and the constant battles one fights in their mind – however, it shows that with healing, days can become brighter and much lighter. The reference to counselling conversations was a nice addition. - Survivor
Her stories are mine too, some of them identical. I realize that I am not alone in my experience; what I went through WAS real.Cher has a beautiful gift of choosing words to explain perfectly the complexity of feelings and insidiousness that transpires in an abusive relationship. – Survivor
Reading your poems felt like I was speaking my truth of what actually happened. The last chapter made me hopeful for the present and future, that we can shine the light that was dimmed for too long. I would definitely recommend this book to another person who is in any stage of recovery or to anyone wanting to understand and offer support to survivors. - Survivor
Cher Obediah is Ojibway and Mohawk of the Turtle Clan from Six Nations Ontario with roots in Alderville First Nation. She’s an award winning filmmaker, author, speaker and certified aerobics instructor. She is the creator of Cultural Cardio, a unique blend of aerobics and Woman’s Fancy Shawl Powwow dancing.
Cher started in theatre before making her way into television as a reporter. She currently works in film and operates her own production company. She is a multidisciplinary creative lending to projects that focus on healing and transformation, equality and inclusion, Indigenous culture, domestic violence, all things art and content that inspires others to recognize their worth.
Cher received the Truly Independent Award from the Hamilton Film Festival, she was the 2020 Hamilton Media Arts Award winner and also the winner of Canfitpro’s Got Talent.
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, THE PSYCHOLOGICAL SIDE OF WHY PEOPLE STAY
DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE
ARGUMENTS, LEARNING TO FIGHT RIGHT
REWIRING THOUGHT PATTERNS AND BEHAVIOURS
GETTING STARTED IN MINDFULNESS AND MEDITATION
NARCISSISM - DETECTION AND PROTECTION
( AND MORE )
I am passionate about helping others transform their life with healthy thought habits
to live the life their spirit seeks.
I'm excited to share the transformational tools I've learned through
years of dedication to understanding myself and the human condition.
Let go of self-judgments, resentments, fears,
unhealthy relationships and negative self talk.
Learn how to navigate change, boundaries
and your emotional landscape.
Respond mindfully to activated people, stressors & life changes.
Find forgiveness, peace and your light within.